According to our experts, it seems like in online dating, it’s best (and easier) to ignore the suitor than take the more chivalrous route and cordially respond.Hopefully, this is a reflection of the weirdos found on all those other sites that gave us the impetus to create Sparkology.While his/her ego may be bruised initially, trust me in the long run s/he will appreciate and respect you for it, because you didn’t leave him/her hanging.” — Suzanne Oshima, Matchmaker & Dating Coach at Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette.“There is no “good” way, because you can’t control how another person will feel.And yet this one guy with the trivia questions was able to bring out your playful side.” The moral of the story is that you are ALWAYS responsible for how you leave a conversation. By being optimistic, playful, interested and interesting, you can almost always transform any evening into a pleasant experience.The problem is that we don’t; we expect the other person to do the heavy lifting – to make the plans, to ask the silly questions, to raise the playing field.
Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.I may email again, saying, “If you want to know anything just ask”, etc. It’s that you probably haven’t given her a compelling reason to be. “So if a man can make you into a more engaging person by writing a witty first email, wouldn’t it make sense that you could turn a man into a more engaging person by doing the same?but I still get no questions in return to start a conversation. If you want to know why your email correspondence online is generally flat and falls apart after a few emails, you have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for your part in it. ” “Yes, but it’s a lot easier when he says something and I can respond to him.” “I agree.So either say nothing (you don’t even know this person – you are not obligated to respond), or simply say, ‘I don’t think we’re a match, but thanks for the email.’ I think it’s important to note, though, that rejection can be a good thing!If I hadn’t been told ‘I’m not interested’ by various men I’ve liked over the years, I wouldn’t have found the love of my life.She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?