It isn't always easy to tell if you're dating a player. It could be because they consider it fun, or they just think they'll never get caught. He says he isn't anywhere near in his life to settle down with one woman. You met him on a dating app and he is still using dating apps frequently. He says he got into dating apps to hookup with lots of ladies. This is someone who doesn't respect people's feelings. Pro players can keep a number of women at their fingertips without any of them ever knowing. It's easy to have trust issues and blow things out of proportion, so don't blow the trigger on something romantic too quick or too soon. And then there's the hopeless romantic in us all that hopes they just don't believe they are good enough for a relationship. There goal is to have fun, and once it's no longer fun -- bolt. Sadly this thin veil of deception often hides low self worth, an inability to form secure attachments, and inevitably, heartbreak when the deception is exposed People who have been single for a long time, are lonely or are struggling with their own self-esteem are particularly vulnerable to falling for a player but really no-one is exempt.Here are some of the main warning signs that can help you spot a one of these slippery characters if you are unfortunate enough to date one.but" When people say that stuff they're trying their best to say what is good -- but they're failing, miserably. You already have to deal with conflict and challenge it. A relationship is someone who also wants to do that with you, to face the obstacles head on, rather than allow the problems to grow.... Sadly, unlike fourteen-year-olds, when it comes to dating, time is slightly more of the essence the older one gets, and unless you're looking to spend two years of your life on a guy who's idea of commitment is adding you as a Facebook friend, sometimes it is useful to sift the chaff from the grain - or the players from the keepers, before your collecting your free bus pass.
An experienced player is an expert at the double bluff, presenting himself as spontaneous and innocent at the beginning of a relationship, supposedly ignoring the text book 'rules of dating'. Fortunately for players their crap is often bought because they are so good at wrapping it up and delivering it. If you met your potential player online and find yourself reading his profile as 'active within the last 24 hours' three months into the relationship, you might want to reconsider his commitment to you. By contrast, he has few male friends - not understanding why you'd have a person in your life who you couldn't potentially have sex with. Don't expect to meet a player's friends or family anytime soon - they do not mix business with pleasure.
First you become exclusive, eventually the L bomb is dropped, things get more serious, and so on and so forth.
Someone who is playing you will tell you they want these things, but never actually follow through.
Everyone who does this will have their own reasons, but let’s explore what it might look like from the receiving end.
_________________________________________ Anyone who wants a long term relationship with someone they love (or, they love) will want to see some sort of progression sooner rather than later.
There is another layer to this problem, though – a layer that is not as blatantly toxic, but still harmful to our psyche and self-confidence; if our partner is playing us.