Now that I’m four years into professional matchmaking, I’ve seen clear patterns emerge when it comes to race and attraction. Women of every racial background seem to strongly prefer dating you.
As a woman, I know that sometimes talking about gender with a male partner – even if he’s well versed in all things feminist – can feel exhausting.
Black women and Asian men are the two groups most notably at a dating disadvantage.
They are the hardest singles for me to match, because they tend to be excluded from the match searches of the majority of clients.
This can sometimes translate into a lack of even that racism exists and is experienced by others.
A romantic relationship is supposed to provide a safe space for individuals to express their feelings and come to terms with their life experiences.
– where affinity groups can be together without the presence of the oppressor – exist: so that tough conversations can be had with fewer guards up, so that you can communicate thousands of ideas in a single collective sigh, so that you can cry together with those who don’t just sympathize, but empathize.